Who will be in the delivery room: When we get pregnant

    Ok. We have way controling parents and they irritate us. I randomly came up with a: Who will be in the delivery room?: Type of paper thing. Anyways here goes:

    My hubby will be the only one in with me. If we get a midwife or a doula then she will be in there as well.
 
    And since we do have very nosy parents, we will also tell the nurses and doctors that we don't want anyone else in there. That way they can enforce what we want.

If we decide that it's okay that they wait in the waiting room, we will ask them to wait an additional 2-3 hours  for bonding time with baby. If after that time is up I am completely exhausted, then we will have no visitors as of that time. I know quite a few family who will be quite upset about that, but oh well.
   
    We will then come home. Probably wait about 2-3 weeks and throw some kind of get together for the people who want to see the baby.
 
     If at the hospital the parents don't get to see the baby then they will meet the baby after we come home and after a 3-5 day wait. That is if we have a vaginal birth. If we have a C-section then they can come back the next day or so.

     This is still part of the plan but, after coming home:

We will schedule the visits at first. There will be no unexpected visits. And any constant phone calls will go unanswered unless you give a message on the answering machine and it is urgent. We also will not answer constant text messaging, IM's, or facebook messages unless deemed an emergency or life threatening.

    We will spread the word the baby had been born. We will request that we be the ones to announce.
   
  Our schedule will play a role in visits. There will be no unsupervised visits for a period of time.
 
   Also: We will try to let each grandparent have equal turns with the grandchild. Will try for once every 3 months or sooner. Depending on travel distance and such.

  Also depending on when the child is born, we will spend all holidays with ourselves. Christmas eve and thanksgiving will be spent with family. The rest will be ourselves unless spontanity is within us that day.

   We will raise our children the way we think is best. If you have a problem with it other then for tips....Please don't. We will not need it.

Thank you,

And have a nice day.