Who will be in the delivery room: When we get pregnant

    Ok. We have way controling parents and they irritate us. I randomly came up with a: Who will be in the delivery room?: Type of paper thing. Anyways here goes:

    My hubby will be the only one in with me. If we get a midwife or a doula then she will be in there as well.
 
    And since we do have very nosy parents, we will also tell the nurses and doctors that we don't want anyone else in there. That way they can enforce what we want.

If we decide that it's okay that they wait in the waiting room, we will ask them to wait an additional 2-3 hours  for bonding time with baby. If after that time is up I am completely exhausted, then we will have no visitors as of that time. I know quite a few family who will be quite upset about that, but oh well.
   
    We will then come home. Probably wait about 2-3 weeks and throw some kind of get together for the people who want to see the baby.
 
     If at the hospital the parents don't get to see the baby then they will meet the baby after we come home and after a 3-5 day wait. That is if we have a vaginal birth. If we have a C-section then they can come back the next day or so.

     This is still part of the plan but, after coming home:

We will schedule the visits at first. There will be no unexpected visits. And any constant phone calls will go unanswered unless you give a message on the answering machine and it is urgent. We also will not answer constant text messaging, IM's, or facebook messages unless deemed an emergency or life threatening.

    We will spread the word the baby had been born. We will request that we be the ones to announce.
   
  Our schedule will play a role in visits. There will be no unsupervised visits for a period of time.
 
   Also: We will try to let each grandparent have equal turns with the grandchild. Will try for once every 3 months or sooner. Depending on travel distance and such.

  Also depending on when the child is born, we will spend all holidays with ourselves. Christmas eve and thanksgiving will be spent with family. The rest will be ourselves unless spontanity is within us that day.

   We will raise our children the way we think is best. If you have a problem with it other then for tips....Please don't. We will not need it.

Thank you,

And have a nice day.

Yeah.....random musings

  So, I had a HI DA scan done for my abdomen and gallbladder. Haven't got the results for that yet. Also I went to the gynecologist expecting to hear "Oh, you just have a yeast infection." Yeah.....she said I have a really high possibility of having endometriosis. Which I knew anyways, what with my hard periods and severe cramping and other pains. And I am not stupid. I know that to officially diagnose en do you need a special surgery. And I know I could conceive, it will be significantly harder.
   It's just hearing those words.....It really hit me-us hard. Hubby was pretty upset as well. At least we have time on our side. We are still quite young. And because of all of this we are going to start trying next month. That way we can get a jump start on this. And if it ends up taking a year I will only be 23 and hubby will be 26. All I have to say is its all in God's hand . If his plan involves us not having kids then we will adopt. I can't grantee that their won't be tears, sweat, or pain. But, I will accept all that God has to offer.
   In other news: I am liking my new hours at Burger King. Its not as stressful. Still looking for another job as well though. Don't want to be at Burger King forever.
  OH! The other thing about the endometriosis was that for the pain I can't take anything. NOTHING. My stomach I'm guessing is pretty much shot. All the years of bulimia,abusing laxatives, abusing pain meds. it really surprises me that so far i haven't been diagnosed with ulcers yet. And I can't take anything with hormones in it either. So....I'm pretty much screwed.
    I will eventually get a second opinion. Not now. I am scared about the bills that will be coming our way after all of these tests. Very concerned though. My health insurance says I wasn't covered in October. When I should have been. Hoping it was just a hospital error. Tried to get a hold of the insurance company but, we waited on hold for like 20 min. Did that 3 times. Kinda scary.
    Our baby savings is coming along nicely. :) We have lots of support. And that is always great to have. I think if we had a baby lots of people would be there for us. I definitely need to make sure we have health insurance though. Going to get as healthy as we can by January. And as ready and prepared as can be.
   Got all our Christmas shopping done except like 4 things! Going to make lots of chocolate covered things and cookies.
    My father in law is much better now with the whole controlling thing. My mother is a little better but, not much. My brother had come over and my mother had called our cell phone 2 times. Called my brother and got really pissed and continued to say how someone could have died and how we need to learn to answer our phones. It was a mistake to tell her about my endometriosis . In like 1 hour she told her friend. I'm sure it will be all over the church and everyone else I'm sure.
     Our kids will not be over much at their grandparents and we will be choosing when they come over. My mom already told me she will be at the hospital when i give birth. My thinking though is if we give birth at a birthing center then no one will be there but me, hubby and a midwife. I guess if we give birth at a hospital then I will say just hubby.