So, first off I guess we should start by how far along we are!
18 weeks and 3 days today and in 8 days we will be finding out the gender and see the developing baby!
I have not seen any movement, sometimes I think I feel some things and then other times I dont.
Well, anyways, things we are planning on doing with baby D is:
Babywearing: Planning on doing alot of babywearing til baby can ride in a stroller, unless we are shopping.
Cloth diapering: We will most likely be cloth diapering after the first couple of months.
Breastfeeding: Planning on doing this and if for some reason I cannot well, then not that big of deal
Baby food: Will making our own baby food, with our ninja blender
Will be gardening alot of our own veggies and fruits for when the baby gets here and to save on grocery money.
Homemade basic remedies: For colds, the flu and fever. Basic things that dont require docotor visits.
Secondhand shopping: Alot of our clothes for baby will be secondhand. We can buy a wardrobe full secondhand, compared to 2 items at a name brand or even Walmart.
We are soooo ready to be parents and are so excited! My hubby thinks it will be a girl, I think boy :)
So that will be interesting to find out.
Monday, February 17, 2014
Tuesday, January 14, 2014
Exciting news! And other things in the making!
So, I have not written in awhile....anyways....Here is what happened beginning in Nov.
In October we had went to Chicago to visit a friend and was busy.
We came back and only had sexy time 1 time.
In the beginning of November, I was feeling kind of weird.
On Nov. 7, I took a pregnancy test it came out so faintly positive, hubby did not believe it. So, I took 2 more. All the same. I waited til the next day and there was 2 lines.
I hadn't even missed my period yet. So, I was 3 weeks when I got my positive.
And our little bundle is expected July of 2014!
But, it has been crazy! The doctors in the beginning thought I had an ectopic. And I didn't.
And now little squirmy butt, is 13 weeks and 4 days old....almost 14 weeks :)
And because our baby is squirmy and doesn't want to be seen, last time we were at the doctors and he was looking for a heartbeat, we of course couldnt find it.....which scared the living daylights out of me.....he said we needed an ultrasound. And there our baby was! On, screen, throwing a fit! Lol!
I could just picture Baby saying "Ugh! I am trying to sleep here!" :P
After 8-9 months of trying we finally succeeded and now are going to be parents! :)
I also think that I will be feeling baby sooner than they say. Today and the day before there seem to be alot more movements inside that feel funny....almost like little bubbles....We shall see! :D
Anyways so yes, that is what has been going on!
In October we had went to Chicago to visit a friend and was busy.
We came back and only had sexy time 1 time.
In the beginning of November, I was feeling kind of weird.
On Nov. 7, I took a pregnancy test it came out so faintly positive, hubby did not believe it. So, I took 2 more. All the same. I waited til the next day and there was 2 lines.
I hadn't even missed my period yet. So, I was 3 weeks when I got my positive.
And our little bundle is expected July of 2014!
But, it has been crazy! The doctors in the beginning thought I had an ectopic. And I didn't.
And now little squirmy butt, is 13 weeks and 4 days old....almost 14 weeks :)
And because our baby is squirmy and doesn't want to be seen, last time we were at the doctors and he was looking for a heartbeat, we of course couldnt find it.....which scared the living daylights out of me.....he said we needed an ultrasound. And there our baby was! On, screen, throwing a fit! Lol!
I could just picture Baby saying "Ugh! I am trying to sleep here!" :P
After 8-9 months of trying we finally succeeded and now are going to be parents! :)
I also think that I will be feeling baby sooner than they say. Today and the day before there seem to be alot more movements inside that feel funny....almost like little bubbles....We shall see! :D
Anyways so yes, that is what has been going on!
Sunday, October 27, 2013
Thoughts on ttc and life in general
Hello!
Some updates on our life and what not!
Ok. So, we are on 8th cycle going on 9th cycle.
I was trying to be gluten free and avoided certain things. But, we failed miserably in the sex factor and other things.
This cycle I am:
Limiting carbs
Watching sugar
Eating 3-5 servings of veggies a day
Eating 2-3 servings of fruit a day
Taking a better prenatal vitamin with DHA (which was not included in the other one)
Also eating a fortified cereal with a daily dose of iron and 40-50% of vitamins for a day
Watching also serving sizes
Also have been getting on hubby to lose weight again. Not only for ttc but, also for health in general. He got a new job at a bakery and has been eating alot of sweets. But, I am mainly concerned that he might have a higher risk for a big list of serious health problems.
He is continuing to take zinc. And we will be striving for every other day for sexy time.
Some updates on our life and what not!
Ok. So, we are on 8th cycle going on 9th cycle.
I was trying to be gluten free and avoided certain things. But, we failed miserably in the sex factor and other things.
This cycle I am:
Limiting carbs
Watching sugar
Eating 3-5 servings of veggies a day
Eating 2-3 servings of fruit a day
Taking a better prenatal vitamin with DHA (which was not included in the other one)
Also eating a fortified cereal with a daily dose of iron and 40-50% of vitamins for a day
Watching also serving sizes
Also have been getting on hubby to lose weight again. Not only for ttc but, also for health in general. He got a new job at a bakery and has been eating alot of sweets. But, I am mainly concerned that he might have a higher risk for a big list of serious health problems.
He is continuing to take zinc. And we will be striving for every other day for sexy time.
Thursday, September 26, 2013
30 day challenge
1. How long have you been self harming? Discuss why you started.
--I have been self harming for almost 8 years. But, it goes farther back than just 8 years....at a young age I had started to hit my head on walls and hit things until I felt severe pain. This was around the ages of 10 and 11.
I started to self harm mainly because I was curious as to if it could actually help me with overwhelming emotions I had within. And unfortunately it did.
2. What part of your body is most affected by it?
--There is not one part of my body not covered in at least 1 scar. But, mainly my arms and legs have suffered the most.
3. What is your motivation to recover?
--Myself. I do not want to be like this forever. I have wasted my life away fighting. I want to feel....without the taste of a blade.
4. Do you consider yourself “addicted”? why or why not?
--Yes. 8 years of pulling a blade to my skin....I think it is an addiction. It is a high....
5. What part of self harm do you dislike the most?
--The promises that I make to myself. "I will never do this again." Or "Just one time." The lies that it brings. The shame. The guilt. The disappointment. And mainly the worry from friends and family. As well as the addiction...needing it to feel, or when you feel too much.
6. What about it do you enjoy?
--When people worry...sometimes it makes me feel alive. I enjoy the sensations, because for a moment....it feels as though everything is in your grasp. That the world is not actually spinning that fast. That time itself can slow itself. It makes me forget and subsides flashbacks. I like the high....the peace....and no living nightmares.....
7. list 10 activities that help you calm down.
--Reading and writing.
8. What the most supportive thing anyone has said to you about self harm?
--That we were in this together and he will always be there for me no matter what." And it actually wasn't about the words but, his actions....he has held true to what he says. :) My husband btw lol
9. Have you ever taken pictures of your wounds? Discuss.
--yes. It was a very dark time in my life. I documented the word LOVE carved into my upper arm.
10. How do you feel about your scars?
--I like my scars. I am terribly sad that most of them are fading. I like to look at them and remind myself of what I have overcome.
11. Strangest place (school, park, etc) you’ve ever injured yourself?
--In the car.
12. Where do you keep your ‘tools’? (Your room, in a box, disposed of them?)
--I have long since disposed of any nearby utensils. But, when I did I kept them in a first aid kit under my bed.
13. What is the biggest realization about self harm you’ve had?
--That I am not alone. After hitting 20 I thought that the only people who did this were in their teens....I was soo wrong. I am now 22 and hoping that from this I can get over this isolated thinking.
14. Is there anyone you consider to be an inspiration in your recovery?
--My husband is # 1. Been there for me for almost 5 years now. I do not want to thank the typical people...In all honesty they were part of my problem and actually drove me to do it more....excluding: Pastors, relatives, church members, and other youth leaders who I tried to stay in contact with but, refused to talk more to me. I want to for my best friend...she was there so much for me and my brother and sister.
15. Do you visit any websites about self harm? If so, what are they?
--sometimes...but mainly recovery websites.
16. What advice would you give to someone about self harm?
--Dont make that first cut. Don't think that this will make what you are going through easier or simpler, it will only complicate matters. Don't think that you can make "only one cut" Or that you can quit anytime you want too...it just wont happen.
17. Do you know anyone else who injures themselves?
--yes and no. Several people who I know used too...and a few who still do.
18. Write a letter to the future (recovered) you.
--Dream big and reach for it.
19. List 5 reasons that recovery is worth it.
--I will be me again and will not let any addiction define me. I will know emotion and be able to handle them. I will have survived the WAR. I will not have to explain to my kids why mommy is scared of herself. I will not be ALONE.
20. What is the most vivid memory you have of self harm.
--One night I didn't eat and I told myself I had to do 150 situps before bed. My anxiety was super high and I failed the situps . I cut myself pretty deep and should have gotten stitches....but, it healed and I now have a super deep scar.
21. Have you tried to stop in the past? What are you doing differently this time?
--yes....many many times. I am not afraid of relapse anymore. If it happens I do not think of myself as a failure...but, a learning lesson. This way of thinking as made me make through 6 months, 7 months, 8, months and possibly more but, you cannot be afraid.
22. Where do you feel the most calm?
--My bedroom.
23. What is your favorite inspirational quote?
--I can't just pick one :)
24. What are some of your main triggers? Why?
--People screaming at each other, A room full of people, A child being spanked, I have a hard time with people being in pain, and people being disappointed. I would rather not go into detail.
25. Do you know any statistics about self harm?
--I think /i do. 1 in 300 girls self harm. and I think it was like 10-15% of males self harm.
26. What is something that makes you the most happy?
--My hubby. When we hug and create a bond that no matter what happens we will have each other
27. Discuss any and all progress you have made.
--Well, I do not think about it all of the time...it used to be pretty much every time I made any kind of mistake I would feel the need to self harm. I only feel I need it when I am out of control or in times of very high stress.
28. What short-term goals do you have?
--We would like to be parents. We are looking for a house to buy. Also looking for a new job. I also would like to quit self harming...turning my old thinking into something wonderful.
29. Do you follow any self-harm blogs?
--I do but not on a regular basis.
30. Post your favorite picture of yourself and write a positive message to look back on.
--I would rather not post a picture but, a positive message would be. NEVER GIVE UP.
And thus ends this 30 day challenge that I completed in...oh....2 days. Thanks for reading!
--I have been self harming for almost 8 years. But, it goes farther back than just 8 years....at a young age I had started to hit my head on walls and hit things until I felt severe pain. This was around the ages of 10 and 11.
I started to self harm mainly because I was curious as to if it could actually help me with overwhelming emotions I had within. And unfortunately it did.
2. What part of your body is most affected by it?
--There is not one part of my body not covered in at least 1 scar. But, mainly my arms and legs have suffered the most.
3. What is your motivation to recover?
--Myself. I do not want to be like this forever. I have wasted my life away fighting. I want to feel....without the taste of a blade.
4. Do you consider yourself “addicted”? why or why not?
--Yes. 8 years of pulling a blade to my skin....I think it is an addiction. It is a high....
5. What part of self harm do you dislike the most?
--The promises that I make to myself. "I will never do this again." Or "Just one time." The lies that it brings. The shame. The guilt. The disappointment. And mainly the worry from friends and family. As well as the addiction...needing it to feel, or when you feel too much.
6. What about it do you enjoy?
--When people worry...sometimes it makes me feel alive. I enjoy the sensations, because for a moment....it feels as though everything is in your grasp. That the world is not actually spinning that fast. That time itself can slow itself. It makes me forget and subsides flashbacks. I like the high....the peace....and no living nightmares.....
7. list 10 activities that help you calm down.
--Reading and writing.
8. What the most supportive thing anyone has said to you about self harm?
--That we were in this together and he will always be there for me no matter what." And it actually wasn't about the words but, his actions....he has held true to what he says. :) My husband btw lol
9. Have you ever taken pictures of your wounds? Discuss.
--yes. It was a very dark time in my life. I documented the word LOVE carved into my upper arm.
10. How do you feel about your scars?
--I like my scars. I am terribly sad that most of them are fading. I like to look at them and remind myself of what I have overcome.
11. Strangest place (school, park, etc) you’ve ever injured yourself?
--In the car.
12. Where do you keep your ‘tools’? (Your room, in a box, disposed of them?)
--I have long since disposed of any nearby utensils. But, when I did I kept them in a first aid kit under my bed.
13. What is the biggest realization about self harm you’ve had?
--That I am not alone. After hitting 20 I thought that the only people who did this were in their teens....I was soo wrong. I am now 22 and hoping that from this I can get over this isolated thinking.
14. Is there anyone you consider to be an inspiration in your recovery?
--My husband is # 1. Been there for me for almost 5 years now. I do not want to thank the typical people...In all honesty they were part of my problem and actually drove me to do it more....excluding: Pastors, relatives, church members, and other youth leaders who I tried to stay in contact with but, refused to talk more to me. I want to for my best friend...she was there so much for me and my brother and sister.
15. Do you visit any websites about self harm? If so, what are they?
--sometimes...but mainly recovery websites.
16. What advice would you give to someone about self harm?
--Dont make that first cut. Don't think that this will make what you are going through easier or simpler, it will only complicate matters. Don't think that you can make "only one cut" Or that you can quit anytime you want too...it just wont happen.
17. Do you know anyone else who injures themselves?
--yes and no. Several people who I know used too...and a few who still do.
18. Write a letter to the future (recovered) you.
--Dream big and reach for it.
19. List 5 reasons that recovery is worth it.
--I will be me again and will not let any addiction define me. I will know emotion and be able to handle them. I will have survived the WAR. I will not have to explain to my kids why mommy is scared of herself. I will not be ALONE.
20. What is the most vivid memory you have of self harm.
--One night I didn't eat and I told myself I had to do 150 situps before bed. My anxiety was super high and I failed the situps . I cut myself pretty deep and should have gotten stitches....but, it healed and I now have a super deep scar.
21. Have you tried to stop in the past? What are you doing differently this time?
--yes....many many times. I am not afraid of relapse anymore. If it happens I do not think of myself as a failure...but, a learning lesson. This way of thinking as made me make through 6 months, 7 months, 8, months and possibly more but, you cannot be afraid.
22. Where do you feel the most calm?
--My bedroom.
23. What is your favorite inspirational quote?
--I can't just pick one :)
24. What are some of your main triggers? Why?
--People screaming at each other, A room full of people, A child being spanked, I have a hard time with people being in pain, and people being disappointed. I would rather not go into detail.
25. Do you know any statistics about self harm?
--I think /i do. 1 in 300 girls self harm. and I think it was like 10-15% of males self harm.
26. What is something that makes you the most happy?
--My hubby. When we hug and create a bond that no matter what happens we will have each other
27. Discuss any and all progress you have made.
--Well, I do not think about it all of the time...it used to be pretty much every time I made any kind of mistake I would feel the need to self harm. I only feel I need it when I am out of control or in times of very high stress.
28. What short-term goals do you have?
--We would like to be parents. We are looking for a house to buy. Also looking for a new job. I also would like to quit self harming...turning my old thinking into something wonderful.
29. Do you follow any self-harm blogs?
--I do but not on a regular basis.
30. Post your favorite picture of yourself and write a positive message to look back on.
--I would rather not post a picture but, a positive message would be. NEVER GIVE UP.
And thus ends this 30 day challenge that I completed in...oh....2 days. Thanks for reading!
Wednesday, September 25, 2013
30 day challenge
So, there is a 30 day challenge I am interested in that I will be doing...
Here are the questions:
30 day self harm challenge
1. How long have you been self harming? Discuss why you started.
2. What part of your body is most affected by it?
3. What is your motivation to recover?
4. Do you consider yourself “addicted”? why or why not?
5. What part of self harm do you dislike the most?
6. What about it do you enjoy?
7. list 10 activities that help you calm down.
8. What the most supportive thing anyone has said to you about self harm?
9. Have you ever taken pictures of your wounds? Discuss.
10. How do you feel about your scars?
11. Strangest place (school, park, etc) you’ve ever injured yourself?
12. Where do you keep your ‘tools’? (Your room, in a box, disposed of them?)
13. What is the biggest realization about self harm you’ve had?
14. Is there anyone you consider to be an inspiration in your recovery?
15. Do you visit any websites about self harm? If so, what are they?
16. What advice would you give to someone about self harm?
17. Do you know anyone else who injures themselves?
18. Write a letter to the future (recovered) you.
19. List 5 reasons that recovery is worth it.
20. What is the most vivid memory you have of self harm.
21. Have you tried to stop in the past? What are you doing differently this time?
22. Where do you feel the most calm?
23. What is your favorite inspirational quote?
24. What are some of your main triggers? Why?
25. Do you know any statistics about self harm?
26. What is something that makes you the most happy?
27. Discuss any and all progress you have made.
28. What short-term goals do you have?
29. Do you follow any self-harm blogs?
30. Post your favorite picture of yourself and write a positive message to look back on.
I think I ca answer alot of these in one day but, I will see how many I can get through first. Also, if you do not like me talking about this subject please by all means dont read.
Here are the questions:
30 day self harm challenge
1. How long have you been self harming? Discuss why you started.
2. What part of your body is most affected by it?
3. What is your motivation to recover?
4. Do you consider yourself “addicted”? why or why not?
5. What part of self harm do you dislike the most?
6. What about it do you enjoy?
7. list 10 activities that help you calm down.
8. What the most supportive thing anyone has said to you about self harm?
9. Have you ever taken pictures of your wounds? Discuss.
10. How do you feel about your scars?
11. Strangest place (school, park, etc) you’ve ever injured yourself?
12. Where do you keep your ‘tools’? (Your room, in a box, disposed of them?)
13. What is the biggest realization about self harm you’ve had?
14. Is there anyone you consider to be an inspiration in your recovery?
15. Do you visit any websites about self harm? If so, what are they?
16. What advice would you give to someone about self harm?
17. Do you know anyone else who injures themselves?
18. Write a letter to the future (recovered) you.
19. List 5 reasons that recovery is worth it.
20. What is the most vivid memory you have of self harm.
21. Have you tried to stop in the past? What are you doing differently this time?
22. Where do you feel the most calm?
23. What is your favorite inspirational quote?
24. What are some of your main triggers? Why?
25. Do you know any statistics about self harm?
26. What is something that makes you the most happy?
27. Discuss any and all progress you have made.
28. What short-term goals do you have?
29. Do you follow any self-harm blogs?
30. Post your favorite picture of yourself and write a positive message to look back on.
I think I ca answer alot of these in one day but, I will see how many I can get through first. Also, if you do not like me talking about this subject please by all means dont read.
Wednesday, May 29, 2013
Changing our lifestyle
Wow. OK. We are actually changing alot of things around here. We believe it will benefit mind, body, and souls.
1. Watching how much plastic we are using. Safe plastic is: 1,2,4,5. While contaminated plastics or more unsafe fabrics are: 3, 6,7. Plastics have a lot of unsafe chemicals in them. As well as BPA in a lot of plastic bottles.
2. Cooking more naturally. At the suggestion of several doctors, I have begun to transition from all processed foods to...beginning in June, all homemade foods. Including:
-Mayonnaise
- Italian dressing
-Ranch
-Ketchup
-Pickles
-Breads
There is more....at this time I can not think of any more. We will also hopefully be getting our gardens up and going and/or be shopping at the Farmers Market. We will be also transitioning to Brown Rice Pastas and possibly see if we can make our own.
3. Dietary changes. I have been to the doctors and she recommended I go on a gluten free diet to increase my fertility. So, we will be incorporating that into our diet this coming month as well.
4. The doctor believes that I have not been ovulating. So, to help with this here are a few things I will be trying this new cycle:
-1 cup of grapefruit juice a day
-Evening Primrose oil. Have heard some excellent things
-Fertility yoga everyday
5. Going to be making all of our own personal products.
-Shampoo
-Conditioner
-soap
-laundry soap
-Insect repellent
-deodorant
-Air Freshener spray
-All purpose cleaner
-Hair spray
-Flea spray all natural
6. Will be getting rid of our tv., And putting away our game systems that we do not use.
7.We will also only be online for 1 1/2 hours every day and that will be it.
8. We will only be having our laptops out on the kitchen table as well. No more laptops in the bedroom.
We will be having a list of books we want to read by the end of the year instead. And be reading them in the amount of time we would instead be online.
9. We will be starting up our devotionals together and also be doing individual ones during the day.
10. Last but, not least we will be only watching one movie per week as our date night. Instead of watching a whole bunch through the week.
Thanks for Reading!
Raven Dudis
1. Watching how much plastic we are using. Safe plastic is: 1,2,4,5. While contaminated plastics or more unsafe fabrics are: 3, 6,7. Plastics have a lot of unsafe chemicals in them. As well as BPA in a lot of plastic bottles.
2. Cooking more naturally. At the suggestion of several doctors, I have begun to transition from all processed foods to...beginning in June, all homemade foods. Including:
-Mayonnaise
- Italian dressing
-Ranch
-Ketchup
-Pickles
-Breads
There is more....at this time I can not think of any more. We will also hopefully be getting our gardens up and going and/or be shopping at the Farmers Market. We will be also transitioning to Brown Rice Pastas and possibly see if we can make our own.
3. Dietary changes. I have been to the doctors and she recommended I go on a gluten free diet to increase my fertility. So, we will be incorporating that into our diet this coming month as well.
4. The doctor believes that I have not been ovulating. So, to help with this here are a few things I will be trying this new cycle:
-1 cup of grapefruit juice a day
-Evening Primrose oil. Have heard some excellent things
-Fertility yoga everyday
5. Going to be making all of our own personal products.
-Shampoo
-Conditioner
-soap
-laundry soap
-Insect repellent
-deodorant
-Air Freshener spray
-All purpose cleaner
-Hair spray
-Flea spray all natural
6. Will be getting rid of our tv., And putting away our game systems that we do not use.
7.We will also only be online for 1 1/2 hours every day and that will be it.
8. We will only be having our laptops out on the kitchen table as well. No more laptops in the bedroom.
We will be having a list of books we want to read by the end of the year instead. And be reading them in the amount of time we would instead be online.
9. We will be starting up our devotionals together and also be doing individual ones during the day.
10. Last but, not least we will be only watching one movie per week as our date night. Instead of watching a whole bunch through the week.
Thanks for Reading!
Raven Dudis
Thursday, May 9, 2013
Infertility Tips
There is a thing called Infertility. And even though I am only 4 months in...I am already getting advice for it. So, to all those women who have been trying for longer or even only 4 months you guys are like my hero's! To fail and try again...you guys are like my models. I know you guys aren't perfect...and trust me I know it is hard to get back on the saddle again....but, still. Oh, this also goes to every woman who has been told that she could never have kids.
And if by some miracle we conceive this month...I will still spread your message. Anyways onto my rant/ informative post.
I am surrounded by other christian women, who all have children. Don't get me wrong....I love these women very much. But, I do think they are very naive when it comes to the younger generation and things pertaining to TTC women.
We have a bible study group and it is compiled of mainly older grandmothers, and mid 30 mothers. I am the youngest, which in a way is cool because I can make them see my side. A young wife, early 20's, trying to conceive.
I hear: "I got pregnant so easily, I got pregnant on our first try, It was so hard being a mother, I can't get a wink of privacy." And I will readily admit that I am jealous. I want what they have. And to be honest, when I hear those things I get defensive and say " I would never complain if I have kids" Which probably isn't true in the slightest.
But, I am going to be happy at the same time and probably complain as well. The one thing though I do not understand is if you only have one child.....and you try for another one and fail....why do you need to complain about not having another child, when there are so many children that need homes...
And if you are complaining because you have more than 2-3 children....well, truth be told, but, God gave you contraceptives to use. If you don't agree with the pill, there are condoms.
"Just relax it will happen." How are you supposed to do that exactly?
"Tilt your hips after sex" We have been doing that!
"Have sex every other day" Done.
"Don't forget your vitamins!" I have been taking prenatal since October 2012.
"Lose weight, eat healthy, do yoga, try acupuncture, etc." AAH!!!
If you are trying to conceive, know you are not alone. These are a few things that help me:
1. Blog! Blogging has really helped me. Gets your thoughts and rants out there.
2. Keep a journal if you don't like blogging.
3. Another cool thing I am going to start back up is: If you have a video camera, vlog about your baby journey.
4. Do not let sex get boring! I know you want a baby but, try different positions. I know the age old positions are doggy and missionary. But, it only takes one sperm to do the job. Go through the Kama sutra.
5. Have Spontaneous sex! Do both planned and spontaneous. Planning is good for hectically busy couples, but so is random spur of the moment. We do both.
6. Keep the romance alive. I truly believe that cuddling and sex can reach a very high level of intimacy but, add a little romance and you will feel like you were just married. Have a date night at home. And ladies this is a secret but, men like to be romanced too, just in a different way.
7. I know this is hard to do, probably especially if you have suffered a miscarriage..but, I am slowly collecting baby stuff. Clothes, books I would like to read to them, and some stuffed animals, and a few cloth diapers. And my reasoning is that if we don't conceive, we will definitely be adopting as young as we can get, and if that fails I know I can give it to someone it could really use it. And I only buy like 1-2 thrift store outfits per week.
8. Relaxation. I know how hard it is to relax. I don't even think my body knows what it means lol! But, it does help a little bit. If it doesn't help for the baby making process, at least it can help the mind. And this can be done through:
Reading the Bible and meditating on it
Taking a bath with bubbles or lavender oils
I personally do yoga to relax, to help my back, and there is a few fertility yoga moves I do. They help align the hips.
9. Take time for you. If you are sad because you didn't do it this cycle, cry for as long as needed. Let yourself be angry, but, not at yourself or at hubby. Remember you guys are a team. Once you release the emotions....like up to a day....go on with life and think of that as a new cycle. A fresh start. Do not dwell on the past.
10. Do not neglect your husband. He will be sad as well. Remember, your husband is here first. You love your husband first and baby second. Do things together. Not necessarily romantic. Just do a activity he enjoys, bake him cookies, garden if he likes to garden.
11. Do yourself a favor and don't look at things that promise you things. You will get pregnant in your own time. In God's time.
12. Continue taking vitamins, I recommend doing yoga, and fertility massages. If nothing else they feel good and your body will feel better.
Sure hope I helped a little bit.
If you were ever told you could never have kids, if you have a uterus...you can get pregnant. I am reminded of Abraham and Sarah. Just don't give up. God gave us IVF for a reason. And adoption.
Everyone hang tight! Dont give up!
Love, Raven
And if by some miracle we conceive this month...I will still spread your message. Anyways onto my rant/ informative post.
I am surrounded by other christian women, who all have children. Don't get me wrong....I love these women very much. But, I do think they are very naive when it comes to the younger generation and things pertaining to TTC women.
We have a bible study group and it is compiled of mainly older grandmothers, and mid 30 mothers. I am the youngest, which in a way is cool because I can make them see my side. A young wife, early 20's, trying to conceive.
I hear: "I got pregnant so easily, I got pregnant on our first try, It was so hard being a mother, I can't get a wink of privacy." And I will readily admit that I am jealous. I want what they have. And to be honest, when I hear those things I get defensive and say " I would never complain if I have kids" Which probably isn't true in the slightest.
But, I am going to be happy at the same time and probably complain as well. The one thing though I do not understand is if you only have one child.....and you try for another one and fail....why do you need to complain about not having another child, when there are so many children that need homes...
And if you are complaining because you have more than 2-3 children....well, truth be told, but, God gave you contraceptives to use. If you don't agree with the pill, there are condoms.
"Just relax it will happen." How are you supposed to do that exactly?
"Tilt your hips after sex" We have been doing that!
"Have sex every other day" Done.
"Don't forget your vitamins!" I have been taking prenatal since October 2012.
"Lose weight, eat healthy, do yoga, try acupuncture, etc." AAH!!!
If you are trying to conceive, know you are not alone. These are a few things that help me:
1. Blog! Blogging has really helped me. Gets your thoughts and rants out there.
2. Keep a journal if you don't like blogging.
3. Another cool thing I am going to start back up is: If you have a video camera, vlog about your baby journey.
4. Do not let sex get boring! I know you want a baby but, try different positions. I know the age old positions are doggy and missionary. But, it only takes one sperm to do the job. Go through the Kama sutra.
5. Have Spontaneous sex! Do both planned and spontaneous. Planning is good for hectically busy couples, but so is random spur of the moment. We do both.
6. Keep the romance alive. I truly believe that cuddling and sex can reach a very high level of intimacy but, add a little romance and you will feel like you were just married. Have a date night at home. And ladies this is a secret but, men like to be romanced too, just in a different way.
7. I know this is hard to do, probably especially if you have suffered a miscarriage..but, I am slowly collecting baby stuff. Clothes, books I would like to read to them, and some stuffed animals, and a few cloth diapers. And my reasoning is that if we don't conceive, we will definitely be adopting as young as we can get, and if that fails I know I can give it to someone it could really use it. And I only buy like 1-2 thrift store outfits per week.
8. Relaxation. I know how hard it is to relax. I don't even think my body knows what it means lol! But, it does help a little bit. If it doesn't help for the baby making process, at least it can help the mind. And this can be done through:
Reading the Bible and meditating on it
Taking a bath with bubbles or lavender oils
I personally do yoga to relax, to help my back, and there is a few fertility yoga moves I do. They help align the hips.
9. Take time for you. If you are sad because you didn't do it this cycle, cry for as long as needed. Let yourself be angry, but, not at yourself or at hubby. Remember you guys are a team. Once you release the emotions....like up to a day....go on with life and think of that as a new cycle. A fresh start. Do not dwell on the past.
10. Do not neglect your husband. He will be sad as well. Remember, your husband is here first. You love your husband first and baby second. Do things together. Not necessarily romantic. Just do a activity he enjoys, bake him cookies, garden if he likes to garden.
11. Do yourself a favor and don't look at things that promise you things. You will get pregnant in your own time. In God's time.
12. Continue taking vitamins, I recommend doing yoga, and fertility massages. If nothing else they feel good and your body will feel better.
Sure hope I helped a little bit.
If you were ever told you could never have kids, if you have a uterus...you can get pregnant. I am reminded of Abraham and Sarah. Just don't give up. God gave us IVF for a reason. And adoption.
Everyone hang tight! Dont give up!
Love, Raven
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